Not glad – why Pharrell Williams needs to update his views on childcare

In her weekly advice column, our form arbitrator documents with dishearten the stars refusal to change his triplets nappies. Complimenting his wife for her hard work plainly wont do

So youve banged on about Beyoncs twinneds and Clooneys twins, but you totally missed out on the big celebrity multiple deliveries narrative this year. Whats happened ?

Jenna, by email

There develops a part in every adults life when they realise theyre no longer the red-hot, with-it young thought they formerly were( or thought they were ). I remember, on the much-missed Adam and Joe podcast, Adam Buxton saying he knew it when he find he made creepy grunting noises every time he sat down. For others, its when they hear themselves asking questions like, No but certainly, who is Pixie Lott? For me, it was when I realised that Pharrell Williams and his unforgettably named wife, Helen, had triplets five months ago and I HADNT EVEN NOTICED. Oh God! This is it, the long slow fall into irrelevancy, with alone my CD accumulation of Drive Time 4 to soundtrack my decline.

Once I had recovered from the disturbance that a personality had triplets and no one informed me, my first excitement was delight in suspecting what on globe “the childs” names “couldve been”, as Pharrell-and-Helen have not yet released them to the media. Because whatever the identifies are, we can be sure theyll knocking Beyonc and Jay-Zs twins into a cocked hat, given that Pharrell-and-Helen called their now eight-year-old son Rocket, an objectively more breathtaking reputation than Blue, which is something that Bey-and-Jay opted for with their daughter. What on globe could these triplets be called? Sun, Moon and Star? Spirit, Power and Force? Oh, the options are incessant! What a happy change this is, I see nothing to criticise here at all. Examine, Pharrell has been giving interviews about his triplets, gives watch those , nothing bad are potentially happen here, and RECORD SCREECH.

Pharrell has been doing the publicity circuit because he has made a song for some movie, and when I heard that, my first thought was, Wow, poverty-stricken guy! Those newborns are only five months old-fashioned I wonder how hes even able to leave the house? Quite readily, it is about to change. Last-place week he was on the daily US show Today, where he was described as a renaissance man and he in turn described his house as an assembly line an assembly line in which this renaissance husband is not on duty.

Do you do the diaper-changing? requested the legion( and new mother herself ), Hoda Kotb.

No. No, responded Pharrell, as if he wasnt saying something that is literally absurd. My spouse is Seal Team Six. Theres good-for-nothing she cant do. I intend, she carried those three bodies and shes on it all the time.

Yes, I envisage she is on it all the time, imparted she has three three! tiny children and you are refusing to change any napkins, you lazy asshat. I specially enjoy how Pharrell announces she carried those three organizations as though the obvious follow-on is, and so she could continue to work like a dog now that theyre out of her body, instead of, and therefore I should do absolutely everything for her for the rest of their own lives, and let that good ladies pelvis regain because she is a goddess.

Being that you are a clothing designer, do you pick out any of their clothes? tried Hoda Kotb, clearly frantic to find something in this encounter to make Pharrell seem less of a throwback. You like robes and stupid hats, Pharrell, right? Perhaps you like baby invests. Alas, for both Hoda and Helen , no. Again, Seal Team Six! he crowed.

Can someone please explain to Pharrell what, exactly, Seal squads do? Because as far as I can tell, he seems to think theyre slaves who save him the irritation of having to alter his life a jot. In information, instead ironically, theyre about cooperation and mutual support, a thought that seems somewhat alien to the so-called renaissance human here, who conceives shedding his wife praises such as shes so capable is the get-out clause to helping with the childcare.

Im mesmerized by men who guess looking after the boys is the wifes responsibility, I actually am. Last week a 2005 interview with David Davis resurfaced, in which he announced he did not change any of his three childrens nappies, opting instead to school them to ski and scuba dive to build them defy. It would be so interesting to learn where his wifes choice-making peculiarity here: Oh no, sweetheart, Im not very interested in skiing. Tell you what, you do the recreation substance with the minors when theyre older and Ill be in charge of the unclean nappies and potty grooming when theyre little, OK? Bargain! What a satisfying situation this is for me.

I have so many questions for such males, even beyond: How can you search yourself in the mirror when you dump all the dogsbody childcare is currently working on the status of women you allegedly adoration simply because you cant be vexed? But my main question is this: will your partner ever have sex with you again? Im sorry( not that sorry) to be oil, but if the two partners announced he wouldnt be doing any nappy-changing, or any childcare at all until he was able to combine it with his own leisure activities, I would take a chastity loop and mallet it around my person.

Who are these men who think it is acceptable to treat their female marriages like the unpaid assistance? And are they the least bit interested in ever going laid again? Well, thanks to the honest of Pharrell and Davis, we can answer the first question. The latter, for now, will have to go unresolved.

Post your questions to Hadley Freeman, Ask Hadley, The Guardian, Kings Place, 90 York Way, London N1 9GU. Email ask.hadley @theguardian. com .

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